Have you ever wondered why some romantic relationships work out while others fail? It isn’t always the ones with the strongest initial attraction that work out, either. Some just seem to click and others don’t. It’s tricky, and it is also hard to know when to add intimacy to the mix.

Today, people tend to rush in their relationships. We want it all and we want it now. This is maybe not such a good idea. Instead, slow down. Too much speed may have been what damaged relationships you have had in the past.

Start by making the emotional bond in your love as strong as it can be. Base it in intellectual and emotional connection rather than in physical passion. The lasting bond will be that which has an emotional and intellectual component.

If you and your partner have a mutual respect and caring for each other, this is the ideal. It makes everything deeper, richer, and more lasting. Your relationship stands a better chance if it is based on something other than just physical attraction.

You may be asking, but what about sex? That’s a good question. There is no hard and fast rule for when sex is appropriate. In general though, you want to wait until you and your partner are in love. It should be mutual, and you should be open with one another and committed to the relationship.

Sexual intimacy that happens too soon can be confusing in a relationship. It is a lot better to wait. This has the added benefit of getting rid of partners who are only there for easy sex, and who would be poor long-term prospects. Instead, wait for the real thing by focusing on building a relationship that is not based on the physical connection.

Starting from a friendship is a good idea. Friendship is very powerful and lasting. Ideally, your relationship will be a strong bond. Learn about each other’s goals, hopes, dreams, and backgrounds. Talk about plans for your future.

Take it a step at a time and don’t be in a big rush. Life can be very sweet if you aren’t pressuring yourself or your date to become closer before it is time.

You and your partner are very lucky if you do this. Your relationship will be genuine, deep, and lasting. Becoming best friends before becoming lovers is always a good idea for a lasting bond.

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